This post was written by GG Sebastian.
Tldr; I learned pickup, changed the way I dress, walk, groom, talk and changed my life status. Girl that friendzoned me was down to cheat on her current boyfriend for me, then I immediately rejected her.
I wasn’t intentionally trying to get out of the friendzone, it was just byproduct from my personal journey.
I knew this girl in my senior year of highschool. We were good friends but I was too scared to ever make a move. I finally made a move on the last month of school and she friendzoned me. This was year 2010.
2012-2016 (The Hustle and the grind)
I seeked out PUA coaching and for 4-5 years I dedicated 3-5 days per week to go out and practice as much as I could. I was a mad man on a mission, some days I did 12-to-12 gaming. I practiced pickup from 12 o clock noon to 12 o clock midnight. I also went out SOLO with no wingman. I got rejected thousands of times with no results. I was practicing in the most difficult place possible (Newport Beach, CA).
For those of you that don’t know anything about that city, it’s 90% white America. I was the only Asian within a 5 mile radius so it was ROUGH. One day it finally started clicking for me. It was a 3 set of hot sorority girls, they were the hottest girls at the venue (I always made sure to approach the hottest girls). The girl I wanted was not very smart, she was kind of an airhead. I got bored talking to her and immediately started flirting with the bartender.
Then the sorority girl started to do everything possible to try to get my attention away from the bartender. Then she said “hey me and my friends are going to another bar, come with us!”. I replied “nah it’s okay, you go right ahead first, I’ll find you later”. The girl was so shocked that I gave her that response. That’s when I noticed that she was trying to game me, not the other way around. That’s when I realized I can get good at pickup. (Kept this story short, you can ask me more in depth about it).
2017 (Mastery)
At this point I can proudly say that I have mastered pickup, I became a coach, I also did social circle game at the nightclub I was working at. I’ve coached a little over 100 students, about 5-10 of them are married or engaged. I coached for the biggest Asian pickup company in LA (not gonna name drop because I am no longer associated with the company). I’ve traveled the world and have done pickup on 4 continents and multiple countries. My first real girlfriend was a model for Vogue fashion magazine in London. My personal social circle at my nightclub, I’ve slept with runway models, ring girls and had dates lined up on a weekly basis.
2018 (Getting out of the friendzone)
I was working at my nightclub and I randomly bump into the girl that friendzoned me in highschool. I noticed her immediately since she hasn’t changed much at all. I saw her in the club and yelled “Hi May!” (Fake name for anonymity purposes). She glanced at me extremely confused “Sebastian….??? Is that you?”. I replied “Hey it’s been awhile! I didn’t think you would ever come to this club. I work here now, hit me up if you ever need anything!” She still had a shocked and confused look on her face “Wow you look DIFFERENT and there’s no fucking way you work here. What do you do here? Is that why you’re all dressed up?” I proudly reply “Yes, I have to dress up for the clients, I’m a VIP and bottle service host. And yeah let’s just say I’ve done quite a bit since we last saw each other in highschool so I can see why you think I’ve changed”.
After that, she would constantly hit me up to hang out or come to the club just to see me. Then one night she pulled me outside to the smoking section of the night club.
As she was taking a drag from her cigarette “Hey I know you’re only into white girls now or whatever, but you can call me anytime. We can left off from our last conversation we had in highschool”
Me being disappointed at her cheating ass “Don’t you have a boyfriend now…?”
She immediately replied “Yeah but it’s whatever, ya know?”
Me being even more disappointed “Ok sure, but just as friends nothing more. Also, I’m not a homewrecker with my clients since it can complicate things”
Her face dropped, you can see her clearly upset “Just as friends? Clients? Ummm sure I guess…”
Guess what? I never saw her again lol. Damn it felt good to know that we never dated at all and I became a better man for it. She was willing to cheat on her current boyfriend for me also reinforced that I moved up in life and I moved in the right direction.
I wasn’t intentionally trying to get out of the friendzone, it was just byproduct from my personal journey. I hope that my personal experience has helped someone reading this.
I wish you the best!